“Death: Where the Loose Ends Live,” a We Wish We Knew That! roundtable discussion

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The Pre-Dead Social Club will host “Death: Where the Loose Ends Live,” a We Wish We Knew That! roundtable discussion on Wednesday, September 17 from 5:30-7:00 p.m. at Star Theater in Kittery, ME. The panel will feature Amy Hammershoy, Certified Financial Planner (CFP) and Chartered Financial Consultant (ChFC), Bailey Goldberg, an estate planning lawyer, and Kyle Perzanoski, bank Relationship Officer. The discussion will be facilitated by Laura Cleminson, Founder of the Pre-Dead Social Club.

Most people say they want their affairs “in order,” but what does that actually look like? This roundtable digs into the messy middle of death—the place where paperwork, people, and planning collide. There are many elements to estate planning and unfortunately, a missing signature or outdated will or trust can leave even the most well-meaning families in a tailspin. Often there are inconsistencies between what someone means to do and what they manage to get done. Important things fall through the cracks—not because of carelessness, but because it wasn’t clear where to start, what to prioritize or how much was at stake.

Whether aging solo, navigating complex family dynamics, caregiving from afar, or staring at a growing pile labeled “To Do (Someday),” this roundtable will offer guidance, cautionary tales, and a nudge to take action before it’s too late.
The mission of the Pre-Dead Social Club is to bring fresh energy to vital conversations about dying and death, fostering understanding among individuals, loved ones, and the professionals they rely on. Through events such as this one, they are working to cultivate clarity, build confidence, and advocate for compassionate, personalized end-of-life experiences.

“Whether you’re just starting, updating, or think you’ve already got it all buttoned up, this roundtable offers a chance to pause, peek under the paperwork-hood, and ask ‘What might I be missing or misunderstanding? What’s going to come back to haunt me—or my family?’ “ said Laura Cleminson, facilitator and founder of the Pre-Dead Social Club. “We’ll host a practical, story-rich conversation with the professionals who have seen the smooth handoffs and the heartbreaking messes. Together, we’ll unpack not just what needs to get done, but why it matters—and how to make sure your paperwork supports your people, not just your plan.”

Amy Hammershoy is a Certified Financial Planner (CFP®) and Chartered Financial Consultant (ChFC®) with Edward Jones, where she helps individuals and families navigate major life transitions with clarity and confidence. Her professional expertise is shaped by personal experience: she and her husband became full-time caregivers for her mother-in-law during her decline with Alzheimer’s. Hammershoy understands the emotional and logistical weight of caregiving while balancing careers and life’s demands—and how vital the right support and planning can be. A lifelong Seacoast resident, Hammershoy is deeply rooted in her community. She serves on several local boards and committees, including the Alzheimer’s Association, aligning her volunteerism with her belief that good planning is a form of care—for ourselves and those we love. Her practice includes a focus on Intergenerational Planning and Special Needs Financial Considerations.
 
Kyle Perzanoski is a Relationship Officer at BankProv, where he helps individuals and business owners simplify their banking, build trust, and plan ahead—before surprises become emergencies. While not everyone has an estate attorney or financial planner, nearly everyone has a bank account—and Perzanoski knows that’s often where the ripple effects of illness or death hit first. From frozen funds to unclear authorizations, he’s seen how quickly financial access becomes a major stressor when plans and paperwork aren’t in place. With a background in business development, marketing and cash management, Perzanoski offers clients clarity, compassion, and a sense of humor. He regularly hosts educational events and supports community nonprofits. Outside the bank, he’s a certified yoga instructor, music and film enthusiast and proud cat dad of four.
 
Bailey Goldberg is an estate planning attorney licensed in New Hampshire, Maine and Massachusetts, and part of the experienced team at Donahue, O’Connell & Riley. With more than a decade of practice, he helps clients craft tailored plans that preserve wealth, minimize risk and reduce the burden on loved ones during already difficult times. His work spans everything from simple wills to complex trusts and multi-state gifting strategies. Goldberg brings a calm, compassionate presence to what can often feel like overwhelming terrain—because behind every legal document is a family trying to do right by each other. When he’s not helping clients plan ahead, you might find him teaching yoga at Humble Warrior in Exeter, reminding us all to breathe through the hard stuff.

Laura Cleminson is the Founder of the Pre-Dead Social Club, an INELDA-trained death doula, hospice volunteer and a member of the NH Health Care Decisions Coalition. Through hundreds of conversations at Pre-Dead Social Club events, she’s heard others say, “I thought I had it covered,” “I’m totally winging this,” and “I don’t even know how to start the conversation.” Her mission is to change that.

Cleminson believes we need consistent, compassionate spaces—long before a crisis hits—to explore what dying well actually takes. Because a peaceful, supported death isn’t just about paperwork—it’s people-work. And it starts with talking.

The event is generously sponsored by Donohue, Beasley & Ferber PPLC, BankProv and Nokbox. Tickets are $10 per person and advanced purchase is recommended.